Love and Lockdown II

Jaachimma Nwagbara

400-level Medicine & Surgery

University of Ibadan


In many parts of the world, the COVID-19 pandemic seems to be letting up; but for the lovebirds among us, not much has changed. Most are miserable, although coming to terms with the new reality and trying to make the best out of a sad situation. We heard from a few of them the previous week, and we have here more outpour of feeling from some others (needless to say, you may want to keep a tissue handy):

“The last time I saw him was nine weeks ago, We’ve never had to stay this long without seeing each other, even with our busy schedules. While nothing has really changed, I truly wish I could see him and hang out. We’ve often had to handle distance before; the only new thing now is the movement restrictions. So we talk more and do more video calls. We basically talk, talk and talk! Distance or not, the heart knows where it belongs. I miss him so much and I can’t wait to show him just how much. I would hug him so tight when I see him”. — Female, 600 level, Medicine and Surgery, University of Ilorin.

“We are not in the same state so our only means of communication has been our phones. Quite drab, I tell you. We talk every day for sure but what we do is switch the type of communication. Today, it might be through emails; tomorrow, it might be through WhatsApp and Twitter DMs; and the next could be phone calls—all to prevent monotony. I had really taken for granted the beauty of touch and I do miss my partner. On a scale of 1-10, I’ll say 11—it’s really that bad. It was so easy to see my partner because we lived close to each other but now, we haven’t seen each other in more than 30 days. My partner was my personal masseuse and the massages were usually heavenly. Once I complain about a sore part in my body, I would get a massage and probably sleep off from that. Now, if I have an ache in this house, I’ll just wish it away using Inshallah and vibes but it never really works. I used to say that if I had 30 days, I would spend them with people I love. Now, I have months and I can’t really spend it with the person I love. Paradoxical, isn’t it?” — Medical Student, 300 level, University of Ibadan.

“This period has made the whole relationship feel like a long-distance type of relationship and while that is quite annoying, we text and call often. I can’t wait to give her a very tight hug. Every love song reminds me of her”. — Male, 600 level, Medicine and Surgery, University of Ilorin.

“I’m in my father’s house and my baby is far away, very far. We talk every day, constantly do video calls and send each other pictures sometimes. I miss him so much and I cherish the moments we were together more now. Who knew ‘Rona would do someone like this?? I will hugggggggggggg him when next I see him!!! I miss him a whole lot. He’s my best friend and not seeing him in over two months now is messing with me. Although we’re in a long-distance relationship, we usually saw each other once or twice a month so it was all good; but that can’t happen now. The scary part is that I don’t know when I’ll see him again. I mean, no one really knows how long we’ll be in this situation for and that really scares me low-key”. — Female, 400 level, Medicine and Surgery, Ekiti State University.

“It had been a long-distance relationship before the lockdown, so we’re really unaffected by it. We call very often though”. — Male, Medical doctor.

“My relationship has been affected positively during this period. We talk multiple times everyday and video call too. I miss him so much”. — Female, Medicine and Surgery, University of Ilorin.

“I miss him a lot. It has however helped focus on other aspects of our relationship. We talk every morning via video call, we chat during the day and we call every night before we sleep. My heart sure is fonder with the distance but I think it would have been the same regardless. When next I see him, I’ll hug him. I miss him so much, even though we communicate every day. I can’t wait for the lockdown period to be over”. — Female, Medicine and Surgery, University of Ibadan. 

“My relationship hasn’t really been affected by the lockdown and movement restrictions. We talk everyday and video call too. I’ll hug her when next I see her. On a scale of 0 to 10, it’s a 10 for how much I miss her”. — Male, 600 level, Medicine and Surgery, University of Ibadan.

“My relationship hasn’t been affected by the movement restrictions. I miss him very much and we mostly chat during this period. Distance, in my opinion, does not always make the heart grow fonder. I’ll give him a tight hug when next I see him”. — Female, 400 level, Medicine and Surgery, COOUTH.

“My relationship has been affected by all these but we talk every day. I miss him very much and I can’t wait to hug and kiss him”. — Female, Medical doctor.

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Jaachimma Oluwabunmi Nwagbara

Jaachimma Oluwabunmi Nwagbara is a fourth-year medical student studying at the University of Ibadan, Oyo State, Nigeria. She is from Abia state, one of the most beautiful places in Eastern Nigeria. She was born and spent most of her years in Northern Nigeria, Kaduna state to be precise. With a drive and passion to contribute meaningfully in her immediate environment, she has participated in politics, the Press and outreaches. She was the Editor-in-chief, Preclinical Press of the University of Ibadan Med- ical Students’ Association. She currently serves as the Financial Secretary of the Association. She also volunteers and participates in medical and social outreaches. She enjoys watching comedy series and exploring new places. She says, “Medical school is a journey, different for everyone and we all should share our stories. I look forward to sharing mine and learning from others who share theirs. As medical students/doctors, we never stop learning!”

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